Brian did a great lesson at church on Sunday about God’s love language!

He taught us that God’s love language is Intimacy, Obedience and Loyalty. When we learn how God interprets love, it allows us to do the things that will really show that we love God. Knowing God’s love language helps us to have an intimate connection with him, obey his word and be loyal to having God be the top priority in our lives. Doing all these things helps us to build a relationship with God in which we will feel his love as well!

Our God is a relational God and wants to be in an intimate relationship with us. God is all about love because love comes from God!

1 John 4:7-12 says:

⁷ Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. ⁸ Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. ⁹ This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.¹⁰ This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. ¹¹ Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. ¹² No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

God loves us in an intimate, complete way because God is love!  How amazing is it that God sent his Son to die for our sins as the ultimate display of true love! God loves us in such a great way that he calls us not only to love him in return but to love others as well. He gives love to us to fill us up and so that we can spread it to others around us.

God’s love lives in us and if we learn how to show it to others his love is made complete in us.

The interesting thing about being loved by someone or about showing love to someone is that sometimes our love language does not match with the other person’s love language. Just like learning about God’s love language so we can really communicate our love, we need to know more about the different ways that humans communicate love.

This quiz on the 5 love languages can be really helpful in determining how you normally communicate love. I find it helpful to take this quiz and then also think… how do I typically receive love, and how do I show or give love? Sometimes those are different. Gifts is not usually one of my highest forms of receiving love (feeling loved by others) but it is a way that I show my love to other people. It is also important to remember that how you show love to your physical family, or your boyfriend or husband can be very different than how you show or feel love with the ministry. It can be helpful to take the relationship quiz if you’re dating or married, but to also take the singles quiz thinking in terms of your friendships or ministry relationships.

When we determine the ways we give and receive love we can learn so much more about ourselves and about others! When you aren’t connecting with someone, you can help communicate how you give and receive love and ask how they give and receive love, so that you can start speaking the same language. Sometimes I am working so hard to show someone I love them through gifts but what they need to feel loved by me are words of affirmation. If I learn to give those words of affirmation to them more specifically, they will actually feel my love more deeply.

Especially as women, when we learn to accept and communicate love in different ways, it broadens our ability to connect with other people. Learning about these love languages helps us to love one another in a godly way. Verse 12 of this passage says: “No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.” If we learn how to love one another in deeper ways, God’s love can truly be made complete in us!

I encourage you to take the love languages quiz and start up conversations about the different love languages so you can learn to love others deeper, and so that others can show their love to you more effectively as well!